One of the goals of meditation is to quiet the incessant chatter in our minds. For many people, it’s an impossible task. The relationship we have with their mind’s dialogue is strong. We feel safe and comfortable with it. I’ve had many moments during meditation where I boredom and annoyance were going to swallow me up.
The challenge is that people who are experienced with meditation will tell you that this is easy and we should all be able to do it. It’s not easy, but with time it can become easier. Unfortunately our lives are geared towards mindlessness. Those little devices we have in our purses and pockets were once used to connect with someone by talking to them and now they have become weapons of mass distraction. People are surfing social media or playing games all the time. I’ve even caught myself pulling out my phone while waiting in line. Theoretically I don’t need to be entertained while waiting in line, but our minds are so trained to be processing.
Social media is another distraction. We think in Twitter posts or sit in silence while transmitting messages to our friends. For some, it’s a good way to stay in touch. But often, it’s unnecessary and keeps us speaking in our minds all the time. The dialogue in our mind has an audience and it will continue to grow as we nuture this part of ourselves.
A big step towards mindfulness would be to wean off the mobile devices. They have their time and place, but their time shouldn’t be all the time.
We can also find hobbies or activities that require our concentration or allow us to become engrossed in it. For me it’s colouring, crocheting or writing. It gives my mind a break and it’s a sensation that we can become accustomed to when we try and meditate. The more you are in the “flow”, the better able you are to get into that state of mind at will. Continue reading “Get your mind to shut the bleep up and enjoy the ride more.”
We’ve all had those moments where you have to deal with something and you just want to crawl under your covers and cry. Millenials call it Adulting. At 43, I’ve had many of those moments having earned my adult card decades ago. I punched another hole in the card on Tuesday when I went to open the blinds in my bedroom and they came crashing down.
As a city dweller, the lights from other buildings light up the bedroom at night so it was important I get ‘er done. Anthony had to leave for work at 8am so thankfully some of the load was lessened with a car ride to Lowe’s to purchase new blinds and a drill. Continue reading “Putting on the big girl panties and dealing with stuff.”
Most of us have one thing in common with our wellness – we don’t drink enough liquids. Even the most dedicated chuggers fall of the well once in a while and dry up. We need a lot of water. Generally speaking, women need two liters and men need about three.
Staying hydrated doesn’t have to be just drinking plain ol’ lukewarm tapwater tho. There are a ton of options that don’t make you feel like you are drinking a yawn. Continue reading “Don’t let your well run dry – get your eight glasses easily”
I’ve read stacks of books on being happier. I’ve developed good habits, cultivated positive self talk and wrote pages affirmations. I wouldn’t say that I’m an unhappy person. But I’ve been sold on the idea that I can have a life of ease and comfort. That I’ll be floating on a cloud of constant bliss if I carefully follow all the steps laid out in one of my many books.
It’s didn’t do very much other than keep me occupied for a period of time. It wasn’t until I picked up a book on mindful meditation and started living in the present moment that I found out what true happiness is.
Being in the moment, whether it’s a perfect moment or one that I hope is over soon, opens the door for exploration and delight in ways I never thought possible.
When I’m feeling uncomfortable, like at the dentist for instance, I often will become curious about my resistance to being in that chair. I’ll experience that prickly sensation I get on my arms when I hear any of the equipment turn on. In my mind I’ll create a space where I look for a place of peace amidst my thoughts of “make this stop”. I”ll breathe deeply and intentionally relax my body. It transforms a situation that I want to escape into into a richer experience I want to learn more about while I lean into.
Continue reading “Life can suck, but it doesn’t have to suck the life out of you.”
Not only are you what you eat, but what you are also slather on your skin and hair. Not only was I shocked at the yuk ingredients in many of the grooming and cosmetics products that I used, but also the fact that the organic equivalent is about the same cost. Your skin soaks up a lot of stuff – good, bad and ugly and so what I put on my skin is as important as what I ingest.
There are some amazing resources to help find good products. Think Dirty is an app where you can take a bar scan of the products you use and look at the rating for toxicity. I was stunned when my belovedQuo bronzer came back a 10/10 for toxicity. Environmental Working Group also has a really comprehensive listing of products as well in their Skin Deep database. Usually what I do when looking for a new product is weigh the toxic load with the price – sometimes getting a 2/10 product which is fairly non-toxic for half the price of a 0/10 product might be a good compromise if you are looking to keep a few dollars back or if it’s a higher priced item. As well, always read Makeup Alley and Ulta reviews before making a purchase. I’ve bought organic mascara only to have raccoon eyes 20 minutes after application which was what everyone else who reviewed the mascara experienced. Just because it’s organic doesn’t mean that it’s good.
For me, having the product be work well and cost effective is important. If I had an unlimited budget, having the best of the best would be easy peasy. Here are some products I’ve recently switched to that I think are great: Continue reading “Don’t talk dirty to me when it comes to my make-up.”
I recently had a long and miserable bout of insomnia. It’s got to be the worst thing ever. I was walking around like a zombie and snapping at strangers on the subway. It wasn’t pretty and it’s not how I like to live at all. During this time, I was diligent in cleaning up my sleep habits – when I do something I don’t half ass it!! Here are the steps I took, which you might find useful if you ever find yourself staring at your alarm clock at 4am.
1. Ditched [most of] the caffeine: I am down to one cup of matcha in the morning which I enjoy because it gives me the energy boost I need for my workouts in the morning. I also really enjoy the taste of it. My tea cupboard is overflowing with every flavour of herbal tea – from dandelion root to apple cinnamon.
Continue reading “A course correction towards sleep.”
It’s been over a week since we celebrated Imbolc, the first of the three Pagan fertility festivals of the year. It’s a time when we honour the Goddess, having returned to her Maiden state and brings a ripening to the earth. It’s the season of new life with lambs being born and even though the snow falls, the days are getting longer as the Sun King grows stronger.
This is the time of the year to think about creative endeavours and what kinds of things you want to manifest in the summer. For those that are pagan-leaning, placing a little doll into a bed with a white wand or other phallic symbol can provide a focal point to these creative endeavours. This doll represents the Celtic goddess of poetry, healing and smithcraft, Brigid [pronounced Breed].
This is the time of the year when we are indoors more because of the weather and a perfect time to read, colour, knit, draw, study or anything else that regenerates your creative juices.
See what kinds of awesome things you can bring to life during this creatively fertile time of year!