I recently read a about a group of students to whom their teacher presented with a large bag of potatoes. Each student was to take a potato for each resentment they were carrying emotionally and put it in a bag. These physical representations of their grudges would be their constant companions – they had to lug them everywhere they went.
After a while the potatoes became unbearably heavy and some started to rot. When it was time to let go of their potato burden, you can just imagine what a relief it was.
Think about the people in your life who you haven’t forgiven. That emotional energy weighs you down and you probably haven’t noticed it. Forgiveness, while seemingly directed at the other person, is really about you. It’s about letting go of your anger towards a situation so that you can have peace of mind.
This doesn’t mean that you no longer have boundaries. It just means that you can assert those boundaries without drama. Without creating a painful story about the situation.
When you aren’t focused on those who have wronged you in the past, you can start opening up to enriching experiences and the people who are right for you.
When life gives you potatoes, make poutine.