It’s forced me to take a sobering look at some of my core beliefs about how I see myself in relation to others. Why are my needs to do things quickly more important than the needs of others to do things at their own pace.
Some would say that people are self-centered. I feel that we are focused on our pain. We are focused on why we need things to move quickly. Why we need that seat on the subway. When I’m not focused on my pain from a crummy day at work or some small slight in life, I’m generous, patient and giving.
The key is to pull away from the pain-body I wrote about earlier. Don’t invest the energy into your pain. The pain body feeds on your anger, irritation, anxiety about the past and the future. Think about how you feel about delays when you are at your vacation destination. Now think about how you feel about delays when you are en route to that vacation.
There is a difference because when you are on vacation you are in the present. When you’re at the airport, you’re focused on the future…the present is an inconvenience to be endured until you get to paradise.
Think about some ways to bring paradise to your present moment. And make every moment count.