Life can suck, but it doesn’t have to suck the life out of you.

pexels-photo-837267.jpegI’ve read stacks of books on being happier. I’ve developed good habits, cultivated positive self talk and wrote pages affirmations. I wouldn’t say that I’m an unhappy person.  But I’ve been sold on the idea that I can have a life of ease and comfort. That I’ll be floating on a cloud of constant bliss if I carefully follow all the steps laid out in one of my many books.

It’s didn’t do very much other than keep me occupied for a period of time. It wasn’t until I picked up a book on mindful meditation and started living in the present moment that I found out what true happiness is.

Being in the moment, whether it’s a perfect moment or one that I hope is over soon, opens the door for exploration and delight in ways I never thought possible.

When I’m feeling uncomfortable, like at the dentist for instance, I often will become curious about my resistance to being in that chair. I’ll experience that prickly sensation I get on my arms when I hear any of the equipment turn on. In my mind I’ll create a space where I look for a place of peace amidst my thoughts of “make this stop”. I”ll breathe deeply and intentionally relax my body. It transforms a situation that I want to escape into into a richer experience I want to learn more about while I lean into.

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Love sugar? Give your head a shake.

sugar-poisonYou can’t walk down the street without seeing some sort processed sugar being consumed. Giant blender drinks, ice cream piled high on a cone or a can of soda in hand – processed sugar is everywhere. And sadly the number of people coping with anxiety and depression are becoming the majority.

I believe that what you eat contributes to not only your physical health but your mental health. And the most obvious of the culprits robbing people of good mental health is processed sugar. There have been numerous studies done on rats and how sugar affects their ability to navigate their way out of a maze. There have been studies done on people to look at how sugar can make symptoms of anxiety worse.

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How worrying creates inflation in your life.

burningcdnmoneyNobody likes paying more than they should have for something. In Dale Carnegie’s “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living” he writes about Benjamin Franklin’s biggest regret in life was that he paid too much for a whistle when he was a boy. He connected paying too much for a material object to putting an excessive amount of your emotional and mental resources.

We are fools when we overpay for a thing in terms of what it takes out of our very existence.” Continue reading “How worrying creates inflation in your life.”