Life can suck, but it doesn’t have to suck the life out of you.

pexels-photo-837267.jpegI’ve read stacks of books on being happier. I’ve developed good habits, cultivated positive self talk and wrote pages affirmations. I wouldn’t say that I’m an unhappy person.  But I’ve been sold on the idea that I can have a life of ease and comfort. That I’ll be floating on a cloud of constant bliss if I carefully follow all the steps laid out in one of my many books.

It’s didn’t do very much other than keep me occupied for a period of time. It wasn’t until I picked up a book on mindful meditation and started living in the present moment that I found out what true happiness is.

Being in the moment, whether it’s a perfect moment or one that I hope is over soon, opens the door for exploration and delight in ways I never thought possible.

When I’m feeling uncomfortable, like at the dentist for instance, I often will become curious about my resistance to being in that chair. I’ll experience that prickly sensation I get on my arms when I hear any of the equipment turn on. In my mind I’ll create a space where I look for a place of peace amidst my thoughts of “make this stop”. I”ll breathe deeply and intentionally relax my body. It transforms a situation that I want to escape into into a richer experience I want to learn more about while I lean into.

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Fitness over 40 means building a better body for later in life.


dogI sprained my ankle a few months ago and it’s still bothering me. In the past I would have bounced back from it. I tried to. I climbed the CN Tower, ran many kilometers and hit the squat rack with a vengeance. But the damn pain wouldn’t go away.

I realized that I’m exercising wrong. As much as I hate to admit it, I got into the habit of “vanity workouts”. I have some pretty muscles. But what I lack is hip stability, lower back strength and my cardio could definitely be improved.

When we are on the “other half” of our lives, it’s not so much about looking good, but ensuring a decent quality of life when we are in our 80s. The ankle and knee pain will be a full-blown limp in 20 years. Continue reading “Fitness over 40 means building a better body for later in life.”